27 – Giving up emotional eating is not all or nothing – Backwards is always an option
Stepping on the path to stop emotional eating can feel like an absolutely ginormous leap into the unknown. A massive step filled with hesitancy and fear.
To stop emotional eating means relinquishing the control we believe we have over ourselves, our bodies and our food. It means letting go of the reins we hold on to so tightly in order to get our lives and our bodies to look or feel a certain way.
Emotional eating is eating in a way which has nothing to do with our physical hunger or physical needs. It is not all bad (!), neither is it all binge eating. The problem is that we so often eat unconsciously, in line with work schedules, kids schedules, the latest fad diet, that we have lost the ability to actually eat in alignment with our bodies and our natural physical needs. We’re dieting, bingeing, fasting, detoxing but without any real clue as to how this is affecting our bodies and what it is really doing to us or for us. We are so out of touch with our own physical needs that our eating patterns have become fabricated by the mind.
When we eat in line with a certain strategy and forgo listening to our bodies we are giving all the control to our mind. This is when emotional eating happens. Instead of eating when we feel hungry and stopping when we feel full our minds give us other instructions, like ‘you must eat 1 banana for breakfast at 7am’. These instructions or rules are usually pretty random and are generated from years of conditioning by our parents, friends, diet books, celebrities…you get the idea. They are not normally based on our physical needs and wants. The problem with this type of eating with our minds rather than our bodies is that we create other rules with our minds that have nothing to do with using food for nourishment like ‘I eat ice-cream when I’m sad’.
Because we already know food tastes good, our mind conjures up ways to use that to our advantage for hiding from emotions we don’t want to feel.
So our mind is controlling when and how we eat and not our bodies, which is the thing that actually should be in control of how and what we eat.
Stopping emotional eating means letting this go.
It feels tough because we live in our minds for pretty much our whole lives.
To let go of that control takes courage. It often feels like too big a leap for most people.
But the amazing thing is you can actually try before you buy.
You can try letting go of control slowly, maybe for a day or two. If it’s too much, if you can’t handle it, if a barrage of emotions fly at you and you simply can’t deal then you can let your mind get back in the driving seat. We always forget this when it comes to scary decisions. We think that it is all or nothing, or we convince ourselves that once you move forward you can never go back. But luckily life knows that is not a great plan for success. So often in life we take a step and then keep moving forward on a path that is not meant for us simply because we have this belief we can’t move backwards.
Well guess what, you absolutely can. And when it comes to relinquishing control over our eating habits slowly but surely is the best way.
The path to food freedom is rarely a straight line, you will find you go back on yourself, ‘slip-up’ or take a wrong-turn multiple times. The beautiful thing is you can start again at any time. This is your personal journey and it will be exactly what it is.
If you find yourself failing more than you’re succeeding it doesn’t mean you’re necessarily doing anything wrong but it could mean you’d really benefit from a little nudge in the right direction. If you’ve tried on your own to break out of your emotional eating patterns and can’t quite seem to hack it please get in touch and let’s figure this out together, drop me an email here
Lots of love xxx