Concept I love
“Ubuntu tells us that we can create a more peaceful world by striving for goodness in each moment, wherever we are.” Desmond Tutu
I am currently obsessed with…
Wordle…
If you haven’t been playing…where have you been?! Everyday there is a new 5 letter word and all you have to do is simply guess. Sounds kind of boring…but is actually such a fun and simple way to get a little dopamine boost and test your knowledge of 5 letter words in the English language!
and One More Thing
I started therapy 5 weeks ago because for the first time since I left my corporate job, forged my own path and started my own business I couldn’t see the next right step and I didn’t know how to put one foot in front of the other
I didn’t want to quit, I just didn’t know how to move forwards anymore
Despite the coaching, courses, programs and support I was receiving I wasn’t able to get to the core of what was happening
Nothing was resonating, nothing landing, nothing illuminating the pathway in front of me
I haven’t been sharing on IG or YT for a while because being in the cocoon is not a place that self-expression comes easily from for me
Because I don’t feel like myself
I feel like a deconstructed whole
All the pieces are here, still accessible, still me
But the pieces don’t seem to fit together
They are frayed, misshapen, confused about their place
This is what life is like in the cocoon…breaking everything down to the bare bones, the simplest forms in which our pieces can exist, and seeing how they might be nurtured back into their proper state in their rightful place
At the same time, I have been reading the stories of Jade @jadealectra on IG about her time in the cult of Bentinho Massaro. I don’t know all the details of what happened or continues to happen within his group but I do know I will always choose to listen to those who speak up about being abused
The psychological scars, the pure confusion and terror that your own mind becomes home to as the victim of abuse is the hardest thing to move past
The mental torment literally changes your brain
It’s not that you have ‘self-doubt’ or ‘fear’
It’s that you don’t know if you’re real, or if what you’re feeling is real. At the deepest level, your mind is convinced that fear and shame is who you are
To be able to speak up from that place takes a monumental act of courage and I stand in solidarity with the brave men and women who have come forward and spoken out
You can read their stories here
As a victim of childhood sexual trauma including psychological grooming, reading Jade’s story along with the other brave souls sharing their experiences (read here), I see the marks that abuse leaves are universal and run deep
It is why so much care and precision is required when working with victims of abuse
It’s why I am so passionate about authenticity and integrity in my work and in the coaching, healing space. It’s why being trauma-informed is so important to me. It’s why choice and consent is so crucial to create safe, healing spaces. It’s why it is always about client safety and empowerment
To feel empowered is to understand that we are of value and worthy of love simply because we exist and to be able to set boundaries and conditions for how we want to be treated from that place. It is about nurturing our intuition, learning to trust our inner guidance and make decisions with confidence from our hearts
If you’re ever in a space where these things are not being respected, it is not a safe space
We each have a responsibility to ourselves but it is never the victim’s fault
At times these waters can feel confusing especially because of the insidious nature of the tactics used by abusers but from my own healing journey I know there is a rock solid core within me that knows what is truth, regardless of how much psychological warfare went on in my mind…it is that north star that we all must cultivate our relationship to
Take care of yourselves and take care of each other 😘