Wisdom I am coming to understand
Intelligence is a handicap
“One of the big traps we have in the West is our intelligence, because we want to know that we know. Freedom allows you to be wise, but you cannot know wisdom, you must be wisdom….The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The intuitive, compassionate heart is the doorway to our unity.” Ram Dass
YouTube Channel that has been helping me
So this may seem a little random…a gaming YouTuber/Psychiatrist…but Dr K provides some excellent examples of coaching people through really difficult mind loops – watching other people receive in-depth coaching is such a beautiful way to receive healing because not only do you get the benefit of the wisdom shared, you also get the added benefit of remembering you are not alone…any of the struggles or problems you face are absolutely felt by others out there…we truly are all in this together 🤗
I highly recommend listening to the viewer interviews…I particularly liked this one
There are also some great short videos deconstructing different common issues – the combination of scientific and spiritual wisdom I find particularly appealing. Enjoy!
and One More Thing
I’ve been deep in some exciting healing these past few weeks that has thrown up SO many gems
I’ve been diving into some of my deepest conditioning around success, achievement, motivation and failure
Particularly looking at where my drive and determination comes from and why I have made the decisions I have in life
This is a complicated question to answer because there are so many threads to each of our stories. I always ask my clients about their why but very often we don’t have access to the truest answer to that question…sure, as coaches and healers we are naturally driven to help others, we have heard the call; but when we begin to unpack the root of what actually makes us take action we find that often we are driven by societal shadows that we simply haven’t seen in ourselves yet
This is ESPECIALLY true when it comes to business building and creating
Where I hadn’t seen it so powerfully before was in my inherent drive for healing and self-development
It seems like a trick question….why do I want to heal?
We believe the answer is some form of – to feel more at peace, to feel more joy, to experience love and kindness, to fulfill our purpose…
But I found within me a deep shadow in my why for healing when I looked at the two following questions….
What do I need to do to be on track, in-line with, i.e. “normal”, like everyone else?
vs
What do I need to do next to improve my life for me?
My healing journey began with me trying to answer the first question. I had no concept of who I was other than my judgement of myself as compared to others. And it was painful…to constantly be trying to improve myself, trying to make changes, trying to understand myself with the hopes of arriving to some place called ‘normal’
And that’s ok! That was the initial motivation for my journey
As I’ve grown and healed and come to understand and embody the wisdom I have been living from the past 7+ years, I have slowly begun focusing on the second question. No comparison, just focusing on me. But over the past few months, and especially in my low moments and moments of failure through 2021 my mind has reverted back to trying to answer the first question
Whenever I feel like I’m falling behind somehow (a completely arbitrary fabricated mind construct) I float back to the comparison, float back to the desire to improve myself somehow so that I can arrive somewhere and get myself back ‘on track’
To catch myself and acknowledge that has been a beautiful piece of healing. It is SO easy to tap into our desire to take action by asking ourselves that first question but we will never be fulfilled by that – there will always be someone else to compare ourselves to or some other path that looks promising, there will always be another track to try and get on
We will only feel enough when we learn to take action from the answer to the second question…to learn that the only action that matters is that which comes from our inner knowing, from our deepest essence…
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