Quote I am considering this week

“In our personal and professional lives, we are constantly hit with one adversity after the other, most of which we have no control over. But the four things we have total control over is how we react, how we adapt, how we breathe, and how we take action.” Diamond Dallas Page

Podcast I loved listening to 

The Joe Rogan Experience #1625 – Demi Lovato on Spotify here

Demi Lovato has lived an extraordinary life…no doubt about it. This conversation is a shining example of the wisdom that comes from someone having been through so much so young all while being judged, scrutinised and heavily misrepresented by the world at large

We are all somehow on our healing journey just by virtue of being alive and we all battle demons that others don’t know about. My heart fills up hearing about the incredible resilience shown not only by Demi Lovato but all us who have struggled to fit in, to feel like we belong, faced bullying, abuse of all kinds and yet still have the courage to show up day after day and do the work to live with more peace, joy and love

It is always a perfect time to celebrate ourselves, for all that we have overcome and all that we have created regardless of our pasts

and One More Thing

My All-Time Favourite Reflection Question

How are you complicit in creating the conditions for your life that you say you don’t want?*

Ok, let’s break this down…

It takes a high level of self-awareness to bear witness to the truth of our reality. Most people walk around in a haze of their own stories, staring blindly through foggy lenses showing them what they believe they want to see along with all the shadows of their subconscious programming

Once we have broken through that we begin to see how we are co-creating our reality. We start tracking our thoughts, movements, actions, emotions. We begin to build a map of our responses to our world, bringing illuminating clarity to that fog we were walking around in. We begin to really ‘see’

Many of us arrive to a place then where we feel very differently about our lives. We have more clarity, more peace within us, have healed some wounds and generally feel more at ease. We have become more compassionate, generous and less self-centred. We have learned to let things go and to accept more

BUT

That is not the end of the road for this journey

Just because we are now more compassionate and more able to accept things it does not mean we need to live in a reality that we do not want to live in…just because we CAN without causing us to suffer as we once did

On a fundamental level there might linger a belief that we just need to ‘let everything go’ and ‘accept what is’….but consider how that belief might in fact be causing you to be creating a reality which you do not want to live in

You are allowed to have preferences

You are allowed to want the life you would most enjoy living. You are allowed to want more happiness 

You are allowed to want more

So ask yourself how you are complicit in creating limitations in your life and putting up walls to getting what you want, through accepting what ‘is’ even though it is not the life you truly want to live…

Just because your life is astronomically better than it might once have been it doesn’t mean we should stop asking for more

*credit to Jerry Colonna via Tim Ferriss for this question