A reminder to give yourself space…
“I always forget how important the empty days are, how important it may be sometimes not to expect to produce anything, even a few lines in a journal. A day when one has not pushed oneself to the limit seems a damaged, damaging day, a sinful day. Not so! The most valuable thing one can do for the psyche, occasionally, is to let it rest, wander, live in the changing light of a room.” May Sarton
Must Watch TV
Couples Therapy
Essentially a documentary where you’re a fly on the wall for some real couples therapy sessions
I binged both series over 2 days…yep that’s 18 whole episodes…
It is fascinating to watch the deconstruction and therapeutic reconstruction of the unique yet universal struggles of being in a partnership. There is something relatable in there for all of us, even if you’re single. Of course the principles for achieving healthy dynamics in a romantic relationship stretch across to any kind of relationship.
The thing I found most interesting was the therapist discussing her own reflections on the couples and her response to them in her sessions with her supervisor
If you receive therapy or have any interest in the process then I highly recommend this show 🙏
and One More Thing
Is Pisces Season over yet…👀
How music theory is helping me feel
I don’t know about you but I feel like I have been wading in these deep waters for weeks and weeks
The daily cleansing tears won’t stop coming
It’s beautiful and magical, and painful and confronting all at the same time
I am finding myself moving away from the philosophical and into the practical, into the grounding of my experience. Our experiences may be rollercoasters of emotions and infinite sensations but if we are feeling it, it is real. It is grounded, rooted in the body, and that is the only information I need right now
I have been studying basic music theory recently and learning about root notes and chord structures. Specifically, how coming back to the root note creates the feeling of resolution we get in music…like meandering off somewhere and then coming back home…and it has inspired a new understanding of my emotional waves
As an emotion arises, it is not always the expression of that exact emotion that brings us to resolution…for example we know that often when we get angry that is not the root emotion – there is often some kind of hurt or pain underneath it that has been triggered. So expressing our anger doesn’t always feel like a resolution…we have to go further/deeper in order to feel fully complete with the emotional wave
For a long time I fully believed I was doing this, feeling and expressing my emotions in full as they arose. But taking the time to consider my internal world in (even more) depth over the past couple of months I have discovered a world of unresolved emotion. This process takes time, it means not going with the first, second, third, fourth or even fifth iteration of an emotional wave but sitting with it through it’s entire complexity and letting it complete it’s own cycle…letting it find it’s way back to the root without getting in the way, without trying to ‘feel’ it, without trying to ‘force’ a resolution using some tool or technique, without even trying to label it, but simply letting it be there, letting the deepest unresolved emotions have space to come up…to finally have air, to finally get clear
Often these emotions don’t have names…they’re not easily identifiable as shame, sadness, fear or envy. They are an amalgamation of old sensations stored away that never got to see the light of day
How very Piscean
Sending you so much love as you navigate this season. Give yourself the opportunity to go on an odyssey of your inner landscape before the start of the new astrological year…let yourself do a thorough cleanse before Aries season arrives 🙏